Tag: advice

  Relationships: One to ManyWhat About your friendsGrowing up my mom used to remind me that one is a reflection of the people they associate themselves with. Not saying that you can't be different or not participate in similar acts, but to others outside your circle, the worst actions are presumed for everyone.For instance, if one of your friends is hoe, and others are aware of her friendly acts, people assume that everyone in your circle is a hoe too. People take things at face value instead of finding what's really going on.  A friendship is just like any relationship: it requires communication, time, empathy, and sacrifice. It is a two way street; give and take. Me and my friends love each other like sisters and we care about each…

Relationships: One to ManyBoundaries                So with all my relationship experience one thing I do know is MEN HAVE ISSUES WITH CREATING BOUNDARIES.  When an “ex” is no longer in the picture, she/he needs to know their place. Ex means; old, no longer, left out, TOTALLY IRRELEVANT. So with that being said, an en ex should not be included in the present relevant picture. Honesty is the best policy in these instances because sometimes the “other” person does not know they are over stepping their boundaries. In every relationship communication is key. For example, my friend’s boyfriend is in a picture with another girl that is a “friend”. This “friend” likes my friend’s boyfriend. So my friend has asked him about the picture, you know like when was this picture taken,…

Relationships: One to Many A Packaged Deal          A package is usual a box or container that holds one or more things, whether it be clothing, household goods, or even a parent and their child(children). So this is for all my SINGLE MOTHERS; not baby mamas; but the ones that are keeping their children first. When I say first, I mean, who don’t put men before them, don’t stay out late on school nights because you have to get up to make sure they get to school on time, not  looking for a sugar daddy or support system, the mothers that realize that once they had children they have to set aside childish ways, a GOOD mother. This is for the young and old alike because there are some women that feel…

Relationships: One to ManyA Good Distant Love            In 2005, according to The Center for the Study of Long Distance Relationships  an estimated 2.9% of US marriages were considered long distance, with 1 in 10 marriages reported to have included a period at long distance within the first 3 years. This means that in 2005 approximately 3,500,000 people in the US alone were involved in long-distance marriages.  It is harder to know precisely how many non-married couples are in a long distance relationship but according to The Center for the Study of Long Distance Relationships there was an estimated 4 to 4.5 million college couples in the US which were in non marital LDRs. These LDRs are due to social, environmental and economic factors such as participation in the military, studying…

Relationships: One to ManyChange of ThoughtAs I sit in my window I have all these thoughts running through my head..” I’m afraid to love, why do I date the same guys, what if I get hurt, I’m tired of being alone, will I ever find someone who likes me for me”…STOP I can’t keep thinking like this I will drive myself insane. I know, maybe I will get an account on Match.com, or go to the gym..naah, ooh I can go to the club..hmm, that’s not really my scene, I GOT IT, I’ll go to church…lol  Sounds crazy, but in reality these thoughts go through a woman’s head quite often; thoughts that run a marathon every time she has to stop and think about the fact that she is ALONE.…

Relationships: One to ManyDon’t take people at Face Value!So I have this friend, she has never been in a serious relationship; but wants one, just graduated from college and just moved to California to pursue her dreams of being an actress. So she called me two week ago saying she just met this great guy, he is a producer and wants to make her “famous”. So I asked her what she knew about him, where was his family from, what kind of producing he does, have you asked anyone else about him? You know questions a friend would ask. She said she was just having fun and not for me to worry, she had him checked out and he was a good guy. Well I have seen plenty of movies…

Relationships One to ManyIn A Trance“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky his is to have you.... The one who turns to his friends and says, 'that's her.'' A trance that only two lovers can experience.When a woman finds that guy that makes…