**FAB MAMACITA**

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3 Tips for staying fabulous while Preggo!
By Keyondria Conner
Number One- which is the most important one in my book is DO NOT over eat…a lot of women may say it’s the perfect time to eat whatever you want, but you have to remember that your going to have to work all that extra weight off when you deliver you bundle of joy. So remember eat ‘til you are content, don’t stuff yourself. J
Number Two- stay active, try to walk at least three times a week.  That’s a great way to keep your weight maintain and to help prepare your body for delivery.
Number Three- Always look Fabulous! One thing I notice while I was pregnant is that everyone pays extra close attention to you during those 9 nine months then any other time in your life. So always make sure your hair & makeup are on point and that you are wearing a nice outfit whenever you step out the house.
3 Tips for staying fabulous after baby!
Number One- invest in a product called a Belly bandit. I ordered one online and put it on the second day after I gave birth and it worked wonders, it helped in the process of shrinking my belly as well as supporting my back.
Number Two- start an exercise regime as soon as your doctor gives you the ok.  It’s best to begin ASAP because from what I have told by other mothers is that baby weight is the hardest to lose.
Number Three- have confidence, remember fabulousity comes from within!!!

“So its boo season . . .”

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How many of us have heard this infamous phrase? Well if you haven’t, be prepared because you will! It’s starting to get cold outside and the largest gift giving holiday is fast approaching so people feel the need to be paired up and I can’t say I blame them! On a personal note, I recently broke it off with the man I was in love with for the past year and a half and when I’m crawling in to bed alone at night I would rather have someone there waiting for me. The want of companionship is nothing to be ashamed of, in fact it’s human nature. No matter what anyone says, NOBODY enjoys being alone 100% of the time.

The main concern I have is that I don’t want to be so eager to have someone around that I pick the first Joe that says sweet nothings at the right moment. I’d hate for us to waste our time laying up together just for me to dismiss you once spring rolls around. Or even worse, I look around and realize the reason I’m missing things because I shared my bed with a thief! No mind you, I’m not talking about physical things (although, that would make me just as upset), but an emotional thief: A man who took advantage of my vulnerability and used me for my kindness, my body and my heart. Once you trust someone and give them a part of you, you can never get it back.

For many, like me, it’s hard to open up to someone just because you don’t want to be alone, but that’s no reason to go into ‘hibernation’. You can fully participate in “Boo Season” without commitment or getting hurt, by simply using your best judgment. Take the time out to get to know the other person and take the same amount of time you would during any other time of the year. And if that person is missing a few qualities that you’d like for them to have, that’s okay too! You’re not marrying them, just let them know from the beginning that you are a single woman and you’re just enjoying the dating scene, nothing more, nothing less!

>>>Share some of your “Boo Season” stories with us! Email me @ katinalockhart@ymail.com & I’ll post them in the next issue

**FAB MAMACITA**

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We’re starting a new series here at **Blondie’s Lipstick** celebrating the joy of motherhood. Every issue we will recognize a different mother who is beautiful, strong, fabulous and of course STYLISH!!! Said mother will share with us tips that helped her stay fabulous during those nine months and how she got her sexy back after the arrival of her bundle of joy. 

Advice From One Mommy Fashionista To Another

by: Porschia Phelps
Some women are lucky while others have to work a little harder than most. When I make this statement I’m referring to post-pregnancy weight. Some women with high metabolisms and all around good genes can shed those extra pounds they picked up while pregnant and go straight back to being as size two in a blink of an eye. While others have to enroll in gyms and try their damndest to squeeze back into their cute butt jeans! LOL! To those ladies you shouldn’t feel alone because a lot of women have been there before, including me! So here are a few fashion tips and friendly advice for those women who don’t want to be just known as mama but also as “sexy mama!”
The first tip is to invest in a really good girdle. I know what some of you are thinking, “I don’t think that I’m that big that I would need a girdle!” 
 But I implore you to hear me out before you write off my advice.  Wearing a girdle doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re overweight it’s simply a tool to help you create a more polished and trimmed look. The best advice my mom ever gave me after I gave birth is that wearing a girdle can really help in getting your stomach back to its former shape. So even if you didn’t pick up that much weight while carrying a girdle can help you in the quest to getting back to a flatter stomach. 
To those women trying to trim down but haven’t gotten to their goal weight yet my fashion advice to you would be to “layer up.” Invest in cute blazers, cardigans, and even vests. Using the layered look takes a lot of emphasis off of the midsection and it still allows a woman to feel sexy.
Another tip would be to seek out jean brands that embrace curves rather than fight against them. My personal favorites are Levi Jeans, GLO jeans and Refuge Jeans by Charlotte Russe. A personal tip I would like to offer is that no matter how you may look after giving birth embrace your situation.
If after having a child you find yourself curvier than before look in a full length mirror and honestly ask yourself, “Do I like what I see?” Sometimes being a little bigger or curvier isn’t always a bad thing. But if in the event the answer to this question is no then embrace the situation and do what you have to do to change it. Don’t complain about something if you have no intention on trying to rectify it. Go to gym, workout, cut calories do whatever it is you have to do to get to a point that you can look in the mirror and say “I like what I see!” 
 And with that said I want to leave you with a personal experience that I encountered after having my daughter. It was a month after I had just had my daughter and my C-section scar had just gotten done healing. None of my size 9 jeans would fit so I begged my mom to take me to the store to get new jeans. In my mind I was thinking that I had just gone up one pant size and was a size 11 but to my alarm every size 11 jean I tried on wouldn’t fit. So reluctantly I decided to try a size 13 and when I tried them on and they fit, I literally broke down and began to cry in the dressing room.
  
My mom and sister rushed in to see what was wrong and when I told them why I was crying my mom began to feel some sympathy for me but my sister just looked at me unfazed.  Then after sitting quietly as my mom gave me a hug my sister said, “You know if you hadn’t just given birth to my beautiful niece no less than a month ago I would slap you! Take a good look at yourself in the mirror those jeans look really good on you and it shouldn’t matter about what number is written on the tag as long as the jeans fit and you look good in them. So please stop with the dramatics, dry your eyes, and let’s go to this counter so you can buy those damn jeans!”  And even though at the time I may have been both shocked and maybe a little angry my little sister couldn’t have been more right. As long as you look good it doesn’t matter what size you wear. And though I haven’t gotten back to my perfect size 9 I’m embracing my situation and even if I never get back to where I was before I wouldn’t be upset because being a bootlicious size 13 is better than moping around and crying because I’m not a size 9.
****Interested in being the next **Fab Mamacita**? Send me an contact me at KatinaLockhart@ymail.com or on twitter @BlondiePearl17!!

**FAB MAMACITA**

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We’re starting a new series here at **Blondie’s Lipstick** celebrating the joy of motherhood. Every issue we will recognize a different mother who is beautiful, strong, fabulous and of course STYLISH!!! Said mother will share with us tips that helped her stay fabulous during those nine months and how she got her sexy back after the arrival of her bundle of joy. 

The first **Fab Mamacita** is the lovely Andrea Brown

>>>How to maintain your fabulousity during pregnancy<<<
1. Make sure that your hair is ALWAYS done or at least maintained. No one likes to see a preggo looking like a nappy headed ***!
2. Make sure that your attire is ALWAYS neat and of course YOUR SIZE. No one likes to see a size small shirt on a LARGE tummy && NO ONE wants to see you when you look as if you just JUMPED out the bed && walked out the door!!! UNLESS you’re in your 9th MONTH!!!!
3. Make sure that you DONT WEAR HIGH HEELS/STILETTOS/PUMPS during your pregnancy at the times when you are SHOWING or even BEFORE. You may slip && fall and HURT your baby, or you may make EXTRA complications that could be avoided. People always look down on the PREGGOS in STILETTOS….TURN OFF!!!
>>>Maintaining it after your bundle of joy has arrived<<<
1. ALWAYS make sure that you have WORKED off your BABY FAT….you cant bounce back STILL looking as if you’re 6mths PREGGO, NO WAY!
2. ALWAYS keep up your wadrobe, doesnt have to be expensive, but make SURE that YOU && BABY are always looking nice, especially in the PUBLIC EYE. DONT lead the public to believe YOU LOST IT!
3.OF COURSE, keep PURSUING the things that you were pursing before, such as SCHOOL < WORK< CAREERS< GOALS, dont use your CHILDBIRTH as an EXCUSE, use it as a BOOST!!!!!! This enhances your KONFIDENCE level, which makes you FABULOUS anyway!
**If you are interested in being featured as next issues **Fab Mamacita** contact me at katinalockhart@ymail.com **Muah!!**

Walking Alone

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Are there times when you feel like the more good you have going on, the more bad or evil things come your way?
What will you do when you do not know what to do?
Are you constantly searching for the reasons why things in your life are not changing?
Well if you are then I must ask you to look to God!  God knows what he is doing in your life and has a purpose for you.  He does not want you to handle every situation in your life on your own.
In fact, that is impossible to do.  How can you handle everything on your own without seeking his guidance?
There is nothing wrong with praying and talking to God because he is not judgmental.  I encourage you to do so!  You will then be able to see things more clearly and make better life decisions.
 As his children, we have to make acceptable sacrifices and in return he will lead us down the path of righteousness.
We must stop trying to make sense of things or situations that do not make sense at all.
Living under pressure and striving under pressure is not the life that he wants us to live.
Live a life of repentance.
Learn how to live and walk in Christ.
-Kaydee

Toteable Quotes

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By Wylie J. Stokeshart
Here are a few quotes from famous people (real or fictitious) that move me. No matter what the race, sex, creed or if they are living or dead…these folk have something to say!
Eleanor Roosevelt
*Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.*Happiness is not a goal; it is a by-product.*Never allow a person to tell you no who doesn’t have the power to say yes.*You must do the things you think you cannot do.
Langston Hughes
Hold fast to your dreams, for without them life is a broken winged bird that cannot fly. *Humor is laughing at what you haven’t got when you ought to have it. *I have discovered in life that there are ways of getting almost anywhere you want to go, if you really want to go.
Faith Popcorn
The trouble in corporate America is that too many people with too much power live in a box (their home), then travel the same road every day to another box (their office). *We can never give up the belief that good guys always win. And that we are the good guys.* Two trends will cycle high in our culture: cocooning, our desire to shelter ourselves from the harsh realities of our world, and fantasy adventure, our hunger for the new and unconventional.

Seasons come and Seasons go

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Going through day to day life you will encounter several people and have some type of relationship with each one, be it associate, friend, co-worker, boyfriend/girlfriend, etc. Each one serves a different purpose for furthering our growth and development but a lot of times, especially when dealing with matters of the heart, we find it hard to let go once the relationship has run its course. This lack of letting go will eventually end in heartbreak but it doesn’t have to.
                As a young child we are taught the seasons of the year and during these seasons different things happen to the plants and animals. Spring is the time for planting, Summer is the time for growing, Autumn is the time for harvesting and Winter clears everything out to start fresh again in Spring. Relationships are the same way- you meet, get to know each other, gain benefits from the relationship but over time there is no longer an exchange and the relationship has met its end. “But how do I know when it’s time to clear out the old and start new?” That’s frequent questions that easiest to answer- Pay attention. When the seasons are changing we can tell from the temperature, length of days and vegetation- the same goes for us; the change could be in their attitude, actions in public and form of communication (or lack thereof). When you notice these changes communicate with the other person to see if it is something you can change to make the situation better, but if not it is best to bow out gracefully than to cling to something that’s no longer there.
No one ever said the process of letting go would be easy but it must be done or you will stifle your growth as a person over someone who undeserving of what you have to offer. Keep a close watch on the seasons in your relationship and never settle for less than you are worth. I am a firm believer that there is a perfect partner out there for everyone and that you should never give up until you find the one meant for you.

Love/ Inspiration Poetry

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Heart, Mind, Soul and Spirit
He has my heart,
He has my mind,
He speaks to my soul,
He tantalizes my spirit.
I dream about laying in his arms
    on a clear, starry night
    laying on a towel
    the crisp ocean air blowing in our faces
My head is resting on his chest
and I listen closely as our hearts beat as one.
. . . . .
I snap back to reality only to find that he is real,
my dream come true and so much more.
That’s how he captured my heart,
after he won my mind,
when he whispered to my soul,
about how he loves my free spirit.
-The Blonde One
**Got an inspirational poem or love poem? Email it to me and I’ll post it here! katinalockhart@ymail.com