We all know that one couple. The couple that is always miserable, whether it’s arguing all the time, talking bad about each other, or cheating there is just always something. They b*tch and moan all the time, but no matter what, they will never leave. And when we as friends suggest they breakup, they go into defense mode stating, “Why would I leave him/her? Why should I leave?” Instead of us telling them all the reasons they should leave, we normally just sit back and listen to what they have to say. After they go on and on they tend to end with, “I mean…at the end of the day, I do love them.” The truth is, hidden behind that statement, they really mean, “I’m afraid of being alone.” Here are ten reasons people stay in a relationship even though they are not happy.
1. Scared of being alone
This may be one of the biggest reasons. You don’t want to leave your significant other because you don’t want to be alone. Loneliness is actually a state of mind. Just because you’re alone doesn’t mean you’re lonely. And after all, it’s better to be alone than with a partner that makes you feel lonely.
2. Don’t want to start over
Personally, this is my favorite. I just don’t want to start over again. You’ve put in years, work, and dedication to trying to make your relationship work and to see it fall apart and have to start over again is heartbreaking. Some people would rather just stay in an unhealthy relationship than to have to start all over again at square 1.
When you stay with someone out of guilt, you end up hurting yourself and them. Your partner will soon sense you distancing yourself away from them and it will slowly tear them apart. Instead of trying not to hurt them, you should just break up and get it over with.
4. Don’t want to prove others right
Everyone knows you two were headed down this road and because your pride is too big, you don’t want to give them the satisfaction of saying, “I told you so.” Sometimes you just have to suck up your pride, say f*ck everyone else, and do what’s right for you!