From Georgia’s Juice
How does the old saying go? Love is blind. Yes, love is blind and as women, we often find ourselves in situations where men will look us right in the eyes and lie to us. And the worst part? Most of the time, we’re so blinded by infatuation that we fall for it. That is when we unknowingly become a side chick.
Before we get ahead of ourselves, let’s differentiate here. There are two types of side chicks. The ones who knowingly sign up to be the side chick and are fully aware that the guy they are seeing has a main girl or wife and are willing to play their position. Then you have the woman who is lied too. She would never consent to being a side chick and is unknowingly thrown into that life.
There are signs, however, that may help you come to the truth about your situation. The first sign is your intuition. If you feel in your gut that something is not right, you need to trust that feeling.
It’s one thing when a man is upfront about his situation and gives you the option to play your position but it’s stooping to a whole new level of coward to lie about your status. Sad to say, some of us women are side chicks out here and don’t even know it! Its nothing new though… R Kelly use to sing about it back in the 90′s in songs like “Double Life” but I’ll save all that for #TBT
Not sure if you’re the side chick? Here are 7 signs to help clarify things:
1.) He doesn’t post photos with you on social media – I know that this seems trivial and it just might be if nothing else on this list applies to you. But don’t ignore the signs! The reality is that now a days, social media plays a huge part in everyones lives. If you’re not present on his timeline, than you’re probably not a real factor in his life! It’s the sad truth. Also, be skeptical of the men who don’t have social media!
2.) He doesn’t invite you to his house – This is a huge sign! A huge red flag! A complete stop sign to turn around and run in the other direction. My advice to all women… make sure that you’ve been to his house on several occasions before sleeping with him.
3.) He doesn’t introduce you to friends or family – If you don’t know his people, you don’t exist.
4.) He doesn’t answer his phone after a certain time – This is a sign that you are on a “do not disturb” schedule. iPhones even have a feature that will automatically send calls to voicemail making it a lot easier for him to be sneaky.
Nothing against Scandal, I just thought this was funny! lol!