contributed by Kaydee
We all know the nervous feeling we get when were close to the one we have strong feelings for. The situation can almost be nerve wrecking because of some many conflicting feelings. On one hand you really like this guy/girl but on the other hand you don’t want to get hurt. Past relationships have taught you to stay alert and guarded. To stay cold and stiff when it comes to love. Sad huh? But that is exactly the harsh reality of today’s dating scene. Somewhere down the line the guy you thought would never break your heart did exactly that. The girl that you tried so hard to make your own turned on you in a flash and now you’re screaming “These b*tches ain’t s*it”. Sad huh? Yet another reality we must face.
After so long you wonder when will things change for me? You start to question everything: the things you say, the things you do, the clothing you wear, the position you play, and the list goes on and on. We fail to realize, instead of trying to figure it all out on our own we need to rely on God to give us a better perspective on life. Take a step back to work on self before jumping into a relationship of ups and downs. The key is to focus on getting yourself together; working, building character, maturing, and more importantly establishing and keeping a growing relationship with God.
It’s so important to work on yourself so that when God delivers that perfect match you’re ready for the blessing. You’ll know when it’s right because everything will happen naturally and will not be forced. We have to learn how to take a deep breath and take a chance on love. We have to take the past relationships as lessons learned and do better with the present situation. You can not dwell on the past and who did you wrong and broke you heart. Just get over that before it consumes you and then you find yourself 40 and alone. I don’t know about you but that is definitely not the way my life will be at 40 years old. I know you’ve tried everything else but you have so much to gain by trusting in yourself and God.