Madea’s Advice

There’s a saying “Some people come in your life for a lifetime, some for a season. You have to know which is which. And you gone always mess up when you mix them seasonal people up with lifetime expectations” -Madea Goes to Jail

This quote from Tyler Perry’s play is constantly in my mind during every relationship I have, whether it’s an acquaintance, friendship or much more. We encounter different people in so many different ways and who knows how long they’ll be in our lives. That cutie on the bus you made eye contact with was your soul mate or perhaps just another stranger on the street. I sincerely believe that everything happens for a reason. We meet people, they teach us things by inspire us, loving us, changing us or breaking us, and we take those lessons and are better because of them in the future.

Recent events in my life have proven that quote to be true. My question to you: What would you do when someone you care about’s time has run out? 

I know, I know. The quick simple answer is “Give that mf-er the boot!!”, but if it was someone you actually deeply cared for it wouldn’t be that simple. Yes, the lesson was learned and it is now time for you to go your separate ways but what if one person is still clinging to the hope that it’s not over? Would you still kick them to the curb without a second thought or stay and hope things get better?

In my situation I chose the latter and with the person I was dealing with it honestly didn’t matter if I kept them in my life for 2 more months & gave them the boot or did kicked out 2 months ago. In there eyes “You don’t want me in your life & you don’t have a good reason so f*** you.” Uh, sorry hon but things aren’t that black & white, there are usually a lot of gray areas.

On the other hand I also feel that we put ourselves in certain situations that could have been avoided had we noticed the signs. Like Madea said “If someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE THEM”!!! I knew what I was walking into but I felt like I could help that person & change them for the better. . . . but you can’t fix what isn’t willing to be mended. Now put yourself in their shoes- you know you have a few issues but you think you’re pretty awesome right? How would you like it if someone (even with the best intentions in mind) tried to change you? At the end of the day we are who we are and we’re not going to change. And when you’re dealing with someone else you have to decide if your willing to accept that person for who they are and all it brings or if you would be better off without them. Again, I chose the latter.

At the end of the day life has it’s ups and downs and me being the positive minded person that I am can only stand constant negativity (be it direct or subconscious) for so long!! Think about the stress that’s going on in your life and if any of it is being caused by a relationship maybe it’s time to reevaluate some things. Think about how you act around them- can you not be yourself because you don’t want it to spark drama later? Think about when you speak of that person- if it’s majority of it is what they do wrong that’s a problem. No, you’re not going to see eye to eye with everyone in your life but if all you get is negative vibes from them then it’s time to clean house. Tick . . .  Tick . . . Tick . . . Times up

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