How many of us have heard this infamous phrase? Well if you haven’t, be prepared because you will! It’s starting to get cold outside and the largest gift giving holiday is fast approaching so people feel the need to be paired up and I can’t say I blame them! On a personal note, I recently broke it off with the man I was in love with for the past year and a half and when I’m crawling in to bed alone at night I would rather have someone there waiting for me. The want of companionship is nothing to be ashamed of, in fact it’s human nature. No matter what anyone says, NOBODY enjoys being alone 100% of the time.

The main concern I have is that I don’t want to be so eager to have someone around that I pick the first Joe that says sweet nothings at the right moment. I’d hate for us to waste our time laying up together just for me to dismiss you once spring rolls around. Or even worse, I look around and realize the reason I’m missing things because I shared my bed with a thief! No mind you, I’m not talking about physical things (although, that would make me just as upset), but an emotional thief: A man who took advantage of my vulnerability and used me for my kindness, my body and my heart. Once you trust someone and give them a part of you, you can never get it back.

For many, like me, it’s hard to open up to someone just because you don’t want to be alone, but that’s no reason to go into ‘hibernation’. You can fully participate in “Boo Season” without commitment or getting hurt, by simply using your best judgment. Take the time out to get to know the other person and take the same amount of time you would during any other time of the year. And if that person is missing a few qualities that you’d like for them to have, that’s okay too! You’re not marrying them, just let them know from the beginning that you are a single woman and you’re just enjoying the dating scene, nothing more, nothing less!

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